Wednesday, May 23, 2012

A Bike Ride With Carson The Great

His newest trick...

Today was one of those days in western Washington that we experience more often than I like.  Rain, rain, clouds, mist, and then more rain.

Carson spent the better part of the day playing in the house, and by tonight, he decided that no matter what the weather was like, he and I needed to go for a bike ride.  The rain was coming down sideways at the point where he began some serious begging, but I gave in and we took off.  The funny thing about our weather is that it looks nasty from inside a warm, cozy house, but once you're out in it, it's really not all that bad.

For the next half hour or so, Carson told me exactly how I needed to ride and what to do next.  I love his sense of adventure. 
"Mom, ride as FAST as you can.  I want to see how fast that bike can go."
And so I would ride as fast as I could, and he would catch up with a big, proud grin.
After a time of riding fast, weaving in and out, and racing each other, he moved on to showing me tricks.

Wheelies came first.  Carson would show an example, I'd copy, and then he'd praise me.  Every time I tried, success or not, I heard, "Good job, mom."  Love that kid. :)
After wheelies came a number of other tricks, beginning simple and finally ending in some contorted position hanging off one side of the bike while I was still supposed to keep it traveling quickly down the road.  Right there it got a little too technical for me.

We rode on a bit longer, the rain now replaced by a cold, sideways wind, and even though I was shivering and my teeth were chattering, Carson was happy as could be.  He showed me his newest skill...riding along while standing on his seat.  The entire time, he explained everything he was doing in great detail.  And, he crashed pretty hard a couple of times, but would jump up, yelling, "That was cool!"

Getting some riding "lessons" from my 5 year old tonight made me think about how this is just the start of many years of me learning from him.  That's got to be one of the coolest things about being a parent...learning as much, or more, from your kids than they learn from you.  After tonight's ride it occurred to me that they're never too young to start teaching us.  I can't help but wonder what will be next. :)

Sunday, May 13, 2012

A Little Ramble on Mother's Day...

Gilthvedt crew - May 2012

My mom is the coolest.  I remember as a kid, making her Mother's Day cards and writing things like "You're the best!" and wondering if other kids just wrote those same words because they had to.  Clearly, my mom was the only one who actually was the best. :)

Growing up, all my friends knew whose mom cool.  Yup, it was mine.  She thought an all day party for 25 screaming 6th graders was a fun way to mark the end of my elementary years.  And, she knew a party for 30 hormone filled 9th graders would be a great way to celebrate the end of junior high.  When it came time to graduate from high school, it only made sense that our pasture was the one that held hundreds of Auburn High School seniors for an all-night raging party the night before the last day of school.  Now that I'm a mom, it's more impressive to me than it was back then.  Cool, definitely, and possibly half crazy too.

I'm on the run all the time these days, and even though my parents live nearby, I don't take as much time as I wish I would to just hang out with my mom.  A few months ago, we took a road trip to Montana, and it was just what I needed...time to just kick back and enjoy my mom for who she is.  A funny, sweet, giggly, kind, smiling, patient, caring, selfless, awesome sort of woman.  I've learned so much from her, and I have so much more to learn!

Society tells us on Mother's Day that moms are entitled to be spoiled rotten and treated like queens.  Is it just me, or is there something wrong with that?  How many moms set themselves up for disappointment on Mother's Day when they dream of having everything their way and it doesn't happen?  They want to sit back and watch their family do all the work...they want to be given gifts...they want to be told how wonderful they are.  How about if moms just were thankful to be moms on Mother's Day?

After years of taking my mom out to a big fancy brunch every Mother's Day, I found out that she doesn't really like brunch.  She isn't a big breakfast fan, and would have preferred a good dinner instead.  She didn't say anything though, and I know why.  She was just thankful to be together with the family and thankful to be a mom.  I think some of us could learn from that.

This Mother's Day, if you're a mom, I hope you'll be thankful just to be a mom.  I hope maybe you'll consider not expecting anything special, and see if it makes your day a better one.  And if you know a mom, love on her and thank her every day, not just on Mother's Day.

Monday, May 7, 2012

Finding The Gifts

It was just a simple show-and-tell toy left behind on the kitchen counter that Thursday morning, but it managed to knock me sideways.
Earlier that morning, Keith offered to drive the boys to school so I could stay home and get some work done.  As he and our 3 kid circus tumbled out the back door, I started a load of laundry, made a bed, & then put on a pan of water to boil for my oatmeal.  I looked around for my phone, and realized I had left it in my car, which Keith had taken.  Even better than a quiet house was no phone to interrupt me too!

Then I saw it – Carson’s John Deere toy sitting on the counter; he had forgotten his show-and-tell.  Show-and-tell day at preschool rolls around once a week, and Carson waits for it with great anticipation.  I immediately pictured the meltdown that would take place upon arrival at school, when he realized he had forgotten it.

I grumbled, knowing my plans for a  bit of peace were shot, then called Keith and told him I’d meet him somewhere en-route.  He was just heading for stop #2, so we decided on a place to meet.  As I climbed into Keith’s truck, I growled to myself about the disaster in the cab, and made a mental note to add “clean Keith’s truck” to my to-do list.  About 5 minutes down the road, it occurred to me that the pan of water on the stove had probably been rapidly boiling for some time now.  I turned around and headed back home.  As I reached for my phone to let Keith know what I was doing, I remembered it wasn’t with me.  Grr.  Back home, I quickly called him and came up with a new place to meet.  I turned off the stove, the pan of water entirely evaporated, and grabbed an apple.  So much for my warm bowl of oatmeal, heaped with walnuts, raisins, brown sugar, and bathed in vanilla almond milk. Boo hoo…

I chomped on my apple, totally disgruntled, as I drove to meet Keith and finally, handed over the toy (the source of all my morning misery).

Several hours earlier, that same morning, I had finished reading One Thousand Gifts by Ann Voskamp .  The book had come highly recommended by friends.  I’ll be honest, there were parts I enjoyed, but also parts where I felt like the author’s poetic use of words was so forced that I had a hard time staying focused.  I was glad to be done with the book, and as I finished the last page, I wondered how this book would have relevance in my life.  See, I really wanted to love the book as my friends did.  It was about finding joy and giving thanks, but I just wasn’t feeling it.  Maybe it’s because I thought I had already arrived in that place of joy and thankfulness.

As I drove back home, something moved me to take a different road. My morning had already been disturbed, so why not take a few extra minutes to see a change of scenery?  No sooner did I take the first turn, when it occurred to me how crazy I’d been to get so frustrated over a little hiccup in my schedule.  My mind went to the book, and I wondered how the author would turn this into something to give thanks for.  I realized the apple core was still in my hand.  That had been a good, juicy apple.  I visualized what her poetic words might say: “fingers sticky sweet from juice of a just eaten fruit.”  And with that, my mental list continued.  

I was driving home in a truck with all things Keith.  Everything I had grumbled about that was surrounding me was a reminder of him – the guy that I’d watched go through a great deal of suffering over the past year, and who still came out on top.  Not on top because he’s cured, but because his faith in the Lord proved that no matter what your circumstances, if you’re on God’s team, you’re on the winning team. 

There was his disabled parking pass.  Just the week before, I’d laughed and thanked him for “taking one for the team” as we took our front row spot at Costco.

And then there was the little bottle of hand sanitizer, almost empty from use.  I thought of all the times he laughed at me for using it before he was sick.  For the first time in his life, he had to be watchful for germs, not because he wanted to, but out of necessity.

As I turned the corner, a plum-sized ball rolled across the seat.  He hadn’t taken time to see a physical therapist once he was up and running.  But, he squeezed this ball wherever he drove each day- rolling it around, working it with his hand, determined to regain the use of his left fingers, whose function had been lost as a result of the disease.  Determination has he, and the ongoing effort that he never even mentions is working.

Beside me sat his leather day planner, branded on the front with the Rocking Bar H.  At one point I had wondered if modern technology would ever replace it.

And then the tools of a builder – a calculator, tape measure, wood glue, and assorted tools were all within my reach.  I smiled, thinking that aside from the lumber, all one might need to build a structure could be found within this truck.

There it was, a list of gifts.  A list of things that made me thankful and brought me joy.  Had the show-and-tell toy been remembered, I would not have climbed into this truck on the same morning that I finished a book about receiving God’s gifts…all of them…with thanks. I would have missed some of the purpose of that book for my life.  The truck ride, preceded by a chain of events, preceded by a forgotten toy, had been a gift.  The toy, once gifted to my boys on a snowy Christmas morning,  became a gift again. 

My reminder, that everything we receive is a gift.  Sometimes, when it isn’t so obvious, our job is to open our eyes a bit wider to look for the gift.  For it is always there.